How to Win Friends an Influence People
Six Ways to Make People Like You. If you want people to like you.......
Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
"We
sometimes encounter people, even perfect strangers, who begin to
interest us at first sight, somehow suddenly, all at once, before a word
has been spoken."
Fyodor Dostoevsky
Reflection: I thank smile is a great way to greet people. A smile makes people happy and warm. A smile can say many positive things about. A smile will say many more about you than words. If you
were to see somebody with a mad serious face all the time you'd think he's mean or a jerk but he might actually be friendly but you don't know that. On the other hand if you somebody with a smile you'd feel warm and would want to approach them and feel like they are friendly. Honestly in my opinion if you don't want to smile then don't. I don't think you should be force to do something you don't want to. A smile can say many things about you. If you don't want to then don't. I like to smile but sometimes I have those days where I don't want to.
Rule 2: Smile
"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends."
Reflection: I thank smile is a great way to greet people. A smile makes people happy and warm. A smile can say many positive things about. A smile will say many more about you than words. If you
"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."
Dr. Seuss
"Each generation wants new symbols, new people, new names. They want to divorce themselves from their predecessors."
Rule 3: Remember Names
"A man's name to him the is sweetest and most important sound in ant language."
"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Remembering somebodies name is easy most of the time. There are times when you have a lot going on and haven't seen a person for a long time and just forget. Also when you've barely someone you have no interest in and don;t really care to bother to learn their name or get to know them. Although if you really want to meet people like a co-worker, classmate, someone who catches your attention. It's very important to remember their name. It's hard to forget a name so when you do it's kind of showing you don't care. They take it as an insult. On the other hand it's kind gesture to remember a name it shows you care.a name says a lot about a person. A name is also a way to remember a person.
"Each generation wants new symbols, new people, new names. They want to divorce themselves from their predecessors."
Jim Morrison
How to Remember Names
Easy way is to repeat an d repeat and keep on repeating a name. Repeat in your head and then repeat out loud.
Find the trigger
Find things to associate the person with to remember like hobbies or unique things about a person
Word Play
Get the first letter of his name and associated with something about him like Joe form Jersey
or just ask again
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
People enjoy talking weather it's in school, through, the phone, or about any topic they like to talk. Mostly about themselves. If you want to get a good conversation you have to be a good listener A good way to meet new people is get to know them by asking about them. Get them talking about
things like or problems or just a background about them who they are, where their from,etc. Always greet new people with a smile. Eventually they'll start asking about you and give you a turn to talk so that they get to know you better. If they have a problem try to help them. Give them advice or feedback. Now if you're trying to talk to anybody be a great listener let them know you care and are interested. Always be respectful and kind. Be a good a listener and get them talking and eventually it'll be your turn to talk.
"A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something."
- Wilson Minzer
5 active listening tips
1. Stay Focus
2. Really listen
3. Allow for periods of silence
4. From time to time repeat the words
5. Understand the emotions behind the words
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
People will always have something in which they really love. Something in which they really care about.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature. " (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciate works magic."
Always be kind and thoughtful to others. Make them feel special so that they will want to be your friend. Start good conversations about themselves let them talk first. At the same time show that you care about what they are saying. If they see that you care they'll open up with you more. That you guys will built a better bond. Appreciate their interest and everything else they do. Try to give feedback or comments here and there. Be a good listener. Talk about them first then it'll be your turn to talk and make them feel important.
"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is."
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
People enjoy talking weather it's in school, through, the phone, or about any topic they like to talk. Mostly about themselves. If you want to get a good conversation you have to be a good listener A good way to meet new people is get to know them by asking about them. Get them talking about
"A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something."
- Wilson Minzer
5 active listening tips
1. Stay Focus
2. Really listen
3. Allow for periods of silence
4. From time to time repeat the words
5. Understand the emotions behind the words
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
People will always have something in which they really love. Something in which they really care about.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature. " (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciate works magic."
Always be kind and thoughtful to others. Make them feel special so that they will want to be your friend. Start good conversations about themselves let them talk first. At the same time show that you care about what they are saying. If they see that you care they'll open up with you more. That you guys will built a better bond. Appreciate their interest and everything else they do. Try to give feedback or comments here and there. Be a good listener. Talk about them first then it'll be your turn to talk and make them feel important.
"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is."
- Jim Morrison
1. give compliments
2. praise them in front of other people
3. tell them you are proud of them
4. tell them how amazing they are
5. get them a gift
6. write them cute notes or messages
7. be interested in what they are saying
8. be respectful
9. help them out with anything
10. be interested in what they are saying
11. give them you time
12. If they don’t have a clear dream, recognize and acknowledge their skills and talents.
13. Ask them questions to help them uncover how they can leverage their strengths to make a difference in the world.
14. Encourage them to go for something they want but are scared to pursue.
15. Comfort them after a failure or misstep and let them know
it isn’t representative of who they are or what they’re capable of.
16. Ask them to teach you how to do something to reinforce that this is something they excel at.
17. Offer to teach them something you know they’ve wanted to try, and let them know why you think they’d be good at this.
18. Give them something to help them get started on their dream—like a
journal for an aspiring writer, or a design book for someone interested
in fashion.
19. Tell them you want to be the first one to buy their product or
service when they inevitably start making a living off their passion.
20. Give them a hand-made card and write inside what you see in them.
21. give them thanks for being there for you
22. hug
23. be polite
24 surprise them
25. remember important events or topics they tell you
Reflection: In my opinion these are pretty good ways for to get people to like you. I don't think they're that perfect though. Just be yourself and I do agree on letting them talk first. At the same time don't let them talk the whole time though. Then you'll get bored of them or they'll get bored of you. Always be respectful.
Reflection: In my opinion these are pretty good ways for to get people to like you. I don't think they're that perfect though. Just be yourself and I do agree on letting them talk first. At the same time don't let them talk the whole time though. Then you'll get bored of them or they'll get bored of you. Always be respectful.
