How to Win Friends an Influence People 

Six Ways to Make People Like You. If you want people to like you.......

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people. 

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

  This rule is simple and straight forward its self explanatory. Be interested in other people. Get to know things about them. Ask questions about them and what they like. People don't like cocky people. The more you talk about yourself the more annoying it is. Keep a conversation going don't be boring and talk about things the other person wont like. Find things both of you guys have in common. Be interested in them not just yourself.

"We sometimes encounter people, even perfect strangers, who begin to interest us at first sight, somehow suddenly, all at once, before a word has been spoken."

Fyodor Dostoevsky

Rule 2: Smile

"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends."

Reflection: I thank smile is a great way to greet people. A smile makes people happy and warm. A smile can say many positive things about. A smile will say many more about you than words. If you

were to see somebody with a mad serious face all the time you'd think he's mean or a jerk but he might actually be friendly but you don't know that. On the other hand if you somebody with a smile you'd feel warm and would want to approach them and feel like they are friendly. Honestly in my opinion if you don't want to smile then don't. I don't think you should be force to do something you don't want to. A smile can say many things about you. If you don't want to then don't. I like to smile but sometimes I have those days where I don't want to.

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."

Dr. Seuss

Rule 3: Remember Names

"A man's name to him the is sweetest and most important sound in ant language."

"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

    Remembering somebodies name is easy most of the time. There are times when you have a lot going on and haven't seen a person for a long time and just forget. Also when you've barely someone you have no interest in and don;t really care to bother to learn their name or get to know them. Although if you really want to meet people like a co-worker, classmate, someone who catches your attention. It's very important to remember their name. It's hard to forget a name so when you do it's kind of showing you don't care. They take it as an insult. On the other hand it's kind gesture to remember a name it shows you care.a name says a lot about a person. A name is also a way to remember a person.

"Each generation wants new symbols, new people, new names. They want to divorce themselves from their predecessors."

Jim Morrison

How to Remember Names

Easy way is to repeat an d repeat and keep on repeating a name. Repeat in your head and then repeat out loud.

Find the trigger 

Find things to associate the person with to remember like hobbies or unique things about a person

Word Play 

Get the first letter of his name and associated with something about him like Joe form Jersey 

or just ask again

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."

    People enjoy talking weather it's in school, through, the phone, or about any topic they like to talk. Mostly about themselves. If you want to get a good conversation you have to be a good listener A good way to meet new people is get to know them by asking about them. Get them talking about

things like or problems or just a background about them who they are, where their from,etc. Always greet new people with a smile. Eventually they'll start asking about you and give you a turn to talk so that they get to know you better. If they have a problem try to help them. Give them advice or feedback. Now if you're trying to talk to anybody be a great listener let them know you care and are interested. Always be respectful and kind. Be a good a listener and get them talking and eventually it'll be your turn to talk.

"A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something."
                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                     - Wilson Minzer
5 active listening tips 

1. Stay Focus
2. Really listen
3. Allow for periods of silence
4. From time to time repeat the words 
5. Understand the emotions behind the words

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

    People will always have something in which they really love. Something in which they really care about.


Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely. 
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature. " (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciate works magic."

    Always be kind and thoughtful to others. Make them feel special so that they will want to be your friend. Start good conversations about themselves let them talk first. At the same time show that you care about what they are saying. If they see that you care they'll open up with you more. That you guys will built a better bond. Appreciate their interest and everything else they do. Try to give feedback or comments here and there. Be a good listener. Talk about them first then it'll be your turn to talk and make them feel important.

"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is."

- Jim Morrison

1. give compliments

2. praise them in front of other people

3. tell them you are proud of them

4. tell them how amazing they are

5. get them a gift

6. write them cute notes or messages 

7. be interested in what they are saying

8. be respectful

9. help them out with anything

10. be interested in what they are saying

11. give them you time

12. If they don’t have a clear dream, recognize and acknowledge their skills and talents.

13. Ask them questions to help them uncover how they can leverage their strengths to make a difference in the world.

14. Encourage them to go for something they want but are scared to pursue.

15. Comfort them after a failure or misstep and let them know it isn’t representative of who they are or what they’re capable of.

16. Ask them to teach you how to do something to reinforce that this is something they excel at.

17. Offer to teach them something you know they’ve wanted to try, and let them know why you think they’d be good at this.

18. Give them something to help them get started on their dream—like a journal for an aspiring writer, or a design book for someone interested in fashion.

19. Tell them you want to be the first one to buy their product or service when they inevitably start making a living off their passion.

20. Give them a hand-made card and write inside what you see in them.

21. give them thanks for being there for you

22. hug

23. be polite 

24 surprise them

25. remember important events or topics they tell you

Reflection: In my opinion these are pretty good ways for to get people to like you. I don't think they're that perfect though. Just be yourself and I do agree on letting them talk first. At the same time don't let them talk the whole time though. Then you'll get bored of them or they'll get bored of you. Always be respectful. 

The Six Attitudes of High Achievers

John R. Noe

1. Make no small plans

    I think make no small plans is a good attitude when it comes to achieving something. I think that what it means is set yourself up for something high or important. Don't aim for a small goal always aim higher. Push your self keep improving. For example lets say you were doing bad in school and then you set your self a goal to get straight B's and then later on you do. Don't stop there aim higher push yourself to the limit and then passing it aim for straight A's. The only way you are going to improve is if you keep pushing yourself keep trying harder and then even harder the next day. Aim for a high goal and once you achieve aim higher and set more goals. Set yourself for something big not small. Don't give up trying harder each time push yourself to achieve that high important goal.

   An example would be like in exercising. Lets say you want to do one hand push ups well first you have to do lots of push ups workout each day to get stronger and once you've achieved it then set

your self to do hand stand push up

"  Make big plans; aim high in hope and work, remembering that a noble, logical diagram once recorded will not die, but long after we are gone be a living thing, asserting itself with ever-growing insistence."

2. Do what they fear

3. Are willing to prepare

4. Are willing to risk failure

    High Achievers are willing to risk failure. They are willing to try and try and never give up either. The important part isn't that they failed the important part is they got back up and tried harder and harder. They push them selves to the limit and after the next day they surpass their limit and aim higher. They don't give up after a loss they keep trying and train until they win or achieve their goals. They set their selves for failure and eventually they'll be able to accomplish it
. They keep trying and that's what makes them achievers. If you loose learn from it don't take it as a loss take as a lesson and better next time. Learn from your mistakes. Keep trying and push yourself everyday to be better.

   An example would be like in the gym and you're lifting you set your self for failure like max and then put even more until you cant go on and the next day you do the same until it doesn't become as hard and you keep on improving and adding more weight and get stronger.

" He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life."

5. Are teachable

    High Achievers are TEACHABLE. This can mean many different things. It mainly means high achievers are always willing to learn from others, from the past, etc. They learn and keep on improving. They receive feedback from others to work on their mistakes. They try to always improve and fix their mistakes. They may not become perfect but they can try to be the best and push themselves each day. We all make mistakes but those who accept them and learn from them will improve. High achievers are teachable will improve from they have learned.

" I take inspiration from everyone and everything. I'm inspired by current champions, former champions, true competitors, people dedicated to their dream, hard workers, dreamers, believers, achievers. "

    An example would be like in school. When you turn in an essay and you have mistakes and the teacher corrects you and then you end up fixing the mistakes and do it better and get a good grade.

6. Have heart

    High achievers have heart. In my opinion i think that when they say high achievers have heart they mean they are caring people. Have heart means like be nice, happy, fun caring. If you have a heart that means your caring. Things people that have heart do are being helpful, kind, respectful. To have heart can also be like dedication. You can have dedication towards a sport or school. To have a heart you take in consideration of others feelings. Have a heart and care about others, yourself, and the things you love to do. Always have heart and do the right thing.

" Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you
find it."

- Steve Jobs

 You can apply this attitude with your friends at school or at home with family be caring and helpful, have heart.

Reflection

    The six attitudes of high achievers are really inspiring and make you think a lot about yourself and the future. These attitudes are really motivational and makes you reflect a lot on your actions. Make no small plans is really good attitude that really tell you to set high goals and always do better. Another attitude I really liked is do what you fear because it's telling you to face your fears and overcome it. I also liked the one that high achievers are willing to risk failure this means they'll give at all the got do or die. Also that they'll keep on trying after a fail and push themselves. Each one of these attitudes are really good. You can learn a lot from these and it'll help you become a better person.

accountability

Accountability

    I think the attribute accountability means to be responsible towards something and to try to do it at the best of your ability.

“As for the journey of life; at some point you will realize that YOU are the driver and you will drive!”

By: Steve Maraboli

   I think this quote means at some point you will get older and will have more responsibilites or more things to be accounted for. 

   

For example like when you get married and have a family for are accounted for to go to work to be able to pay bills put food on the table and take care of your family but when you're a kid you're not responsible for that your parents are.  

goals

100 goals

1. win CIF
2. Place at State 
3. Graduate high school
4. pass this class with an A
5. get straight A's at least once on my report card
6. pass all my classes with at least a B
7. get married 
8. have a family
9. i want to have 1 boy and maybe a girl
10. go to sixflags
11. go to lego land
12. i want to go to Sweeden 
13. Travel to Greece 
14. Meet PewDiePie
15. go to Italy with my wife when i get married 
16. Go to dave and busters
17. go two days without sleeping and not being home
18. go to las vegas 
19. go on cruise
20. get my dream house 
21. live in Chicago for at least a year 
22. go camping with only my closest friends
23. learn to drive
24. get a job
25. buy a scuf controller
26. go to college
27. get good at bowling 
28. go to new york
29. learn how to play the guitar
30. learn to play the drums
31. write a song
32.  write a poem
33. shoot a gun 
34. buy a gun
35. see a wolf
36. own a wolf 
37. see a red panda 
38. write poem for my mom
39. get my drivers licence 
40. run away from home
41. go on road trip with my friends before school ends 
42. make a million dollars 
43. drive to the mall with friends 
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assertiveness

Assertiveness

    I think assertiveness means to be demanding and confident without being to aggressive.

"Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul and a trait of a true coward. There is nothing intelligent about not standing up for yourself. You may not win every battle. However, everyone will at least know what you stood for—YOU."

By: Shannon L. Alder

Reflection: i think this quote is saying to be more confident and stand up for yourself and your opinions. And if people ever prove you wrong at least you stood up for yourself. For example in an argument or debate.  

personal development quote

Personal Development Quote

"A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder"

-Thomas Carlyle

    I think this quote means that a man without a goal is a man in which doesn't or function right. like for example that story with this huge ship was used in war and was the strongest. of them all. No body was able to take it down no matter what they did  it just seemed  impossible. Then one day somebody shot a missal to the rudder and the ship went out of control. It spun in circles and blew up. It did it because the rudder is what controls the ship. So in other words a man without a goal doesn't function because he doesn't know what hes aiming for. He doesn't know what he wants to accomplish so how can he do anything without knowing what he wants to do or accomplish. just like the ship couldn't work without  the rudder.

This quote relates to my 100+ Life Planning goals because it has to do with knowing your goal and you cant anything without having a goal.

attitude

Attitude

    A settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a persons behavior. I think it means the way you behave or perform.

“Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you.”

-Walt Whitman

I think this quote means that if you have a positive attitude and keep on doing good and keep on moving forward no matter what that all the bad things wont bother you or impact you as much. The bad things won't have that much of an impact because they'll be behind or in the past and forgotten. That's why you should keep moving forward because eventually your problems would be in the past/ behind you like your shadow.