How to Win Friends an Influence People 

Six Ways to Make People Like You. If you want people to like you.......

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people. 

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

  This rule is simple and straight forward its self explanatory. Be interested in other people. Get to know things about them. Ask questions about them and what they like. People don't like cocky people. The more you talk about yourself the more annoying it is. Keep a conversation going don't be boring and talk about things the other person wont like. Find things both of you guys have in common. Be interested in them not just yourself.

"We sometimes encounter people, even perfect strangers, who begin to interest us at first sight, somehow suddenly, all at once, before a word has been spoken."

Fyodor Dostoevsky

Rule 2: Smile

"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends."

Reflection: I thank smile is a great way to greet people. A smile makes people happy and warm. A smile can say many positive things about. A smile will say many more about you than words. If you

were to see somebody with a mad serious face all the time you'd think he's mean or a jerk but he might actually be friendly but you don't know that. On the other hand if you somebody with a smile you'd feel warm and would want to approach them and feel like they are friendly. Honestly in my opinion if you don't want to smile then don't. I don't think you should be force to do something you don't want to. A smile can say many things about you. If you don't want to then don't. I like to smile but sometimes I have those days where I don't want to.

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."

Dr. Seuss

Rule 3: Remember Names

"A man's name to him the is sweetest and most important sound in ant language."

"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

    Remembering somebodies name is easy most of the time. There are times when you have a lot going on and haven't seen a person for a long time and just forget. Also when you've barely someone you have no interest in and don;t really care to bother to learn their name or get to know them. Although if you really want to meet people like a co-worker, classmate, someone who catches your attention. It's very important to remember their name. It's hard to forget a name so when you do it's kind of showing you don't care. They take it as an insult. On the other hand it's kind gesture to remember a name it shows you care.a name says a lot about a person. A name is also a way to remember a person.

"Each generation wants new symbols, new people, new names. They want to divorce themselves from their predecessors."

Jim Morrison

How to Remember Names

Easy way is to repeat an d repeat and keep on repeating a name. Repeat in your head and then repeat out loud.

Find the trigger 

Find things to associate the person with to remember like hobbies or unique things about a person

Word Play 

Get the first letter of his name and associated with something about him like Joe form Jersey 

or just ask again

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."

    People enjoy talking weather it's in school, through, the phone, or about any topic they like to talk. Mostly about themselves. If you want to get a good conversation you have to be a good listener A good way to meet new people is get to know them by asking about them. Get them talking about

things like or problems or just a background about them who they are, where their from,etc. Always greet new people with a smile. Eventually they'll start asking about you and give you a turn to talk so that they get to know you better. If they have a problem try to help them. Give them advice or feedback. Now if you're trying to talk to anybody be a great listener let them know you care and are interested. Always be respectful and kind. Be a good a listener and get them talking and eventually it'll be your turn to talk.

"A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something."
                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                     - Wilson Minzer
5 active listening tips 

1. Stay Focus
2. Really listen
3. Allow for periods of silence
4. From time to time repeat the words 
5. Understand the emotions behind the words

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

    People will always have something in which they really love. Something in which they really care about.


Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely. 
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature. " (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciate works magic."

    Always be kind and thoughtful to others. Make them feel special so that they will want to be your friend. Start good conversations about themselves let them talk first. At the same time show that you care about what they are saying. If they see that you care they'll open up with you more. That you guys will built a better bond. Appreciate their interest and everything else they do. Try to give feedback or comments here and there. Be a good listener. Talk about them first then it'll be your turn to talk and make them feel important.

"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is."

- Jim Morrison

1. give compliments

2. praise them in front of other people

3. tell them you are proud of them

4. tell them how amazing they are

5. get them a gift

6. write them cute notes or messages 

7. be interested in what they are saying

8. be respectful

9. help them out with anything

10. be interested in what they are saying

11. give them you time

12. If they don’t have a clear dream, recognize and acknowledge their skills and talents.

13. Ask them questions to help them uncover how they can leverage their strengths to make a difference in the world.

14. Encourage them to go for something they want but are scared to pursue.

15. Comfort them after a failure or misstep and let them know it isn’t representative of who they are or what they’re capable of.

16. Ask them to teach you how to do something to reinforce that this is something they excel at.

17. Offer to teach them something you know they’ve wanted to try, and let them know why you think they’d be good at this.

18. Give them something to help them get started on their dream—like a journal for an aspiring writer, or a design book for someone interested in fashion.

19. Tell them you want to be the first one to buy their product or service when they inevitably start making a living off their passion.

20. Give them a hand-made card and write inside what you see in them.

21. give them thanks for being there for you

22. hug

23. be polite 

24 surprise them

25. remember important events or topics they tell you

Reflection: In my opinion these are pretty good ways for to get people to like you. I don't think they're that perfect though. Just be yourself and I do agree on letting them talk first. At the same time don't let them talk the whole time though. Then you'll get bored of them or they'll get bored of you. Always be respectful. 

The Six Attitudes of High Achievers

John R. Noe

1. Make no small plans

    I think make no small plans is a good attitude when it comes to achieving something. I think that what it means is set yourself up for something high or important. Don't aim for a small goal always aim higher. Push your self keep improving. For example lets say you were doing bad in school and then you set your self a goal to get straight B's and then later on you do. Don't stop there aim higher push yourself to the limit and then passing it aim for straight A's. The only way you are going to improve is if you keep pushing yourself keep trying harder and then even harder the next day. Aim for a high goal and once you achieve aim higher and set more goals. Set yourself for something big not small. Don't give up trying harder each time push yourself to achieve that high important goal.

   An example would be like in exercising. Lets say you want to do one hand push ups well first you have to do lots of push ups workout each day to get stronger and once you've achieved it then set

your self to do hand stand push up

"  Make big plans; aim high in hope and work, remembering that a noble, logical diagram once recorded will not die, but long after we are gone be a living thing, asserting itself with ever-growing insistence."

2. Do what they fear

3. Are willing to prepare

4. Are willing to risk failure

    High Achievers are willing to risk failure. They are willing to try and try and never give up either. The important part isn't that they failed the important part is they got back up and tried harder and harder. They push them selves to the limit and after the next day they surpass their limit and aim higher. They don't give up after a loss they keep trying and train until they win or achieve their goals. They set their selves for failure and eventually they'll be able to accomplish it
. They keep trying and that's what makes them achievers. If you loose learn from it don't take it as a loss take as a lesson and better next time. Learn from your mistakes. Keep trying and push yourself everyday to be better.

   An example would be like in the gym and you're lifting you set your self for failure like max and then put even more until you cant go on and the next day you do the same until it doesn't become as hard and you keep on improving and adding more weight and get stronger.

" He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life."

5. Are teachable

    High Achievers are TEACHABLE. This can mean many different things. It mainly means high achievers are always willing to learn from others, from the past, etc. They learn and keep on improving. They receive feedback from others to work on their mistakes. They try to always improve and fix their mistakes. They may not become perfect but they can try to be the best and push themselves each day. We all make mistakes but those who accept them and learn from them will improve. High achievers are teachable will improve from they have learned.

" I take inspiration from everyone and everything. I'm inspired by current champions, former champions, true competitors, people dedicated to their dream, hard workers, dreamers, believers, achievers. "

    An example would be like in school. When you turn in an essay and you have mistakes and the teacher corrects you and then you end up fixing the mistakes and do it better and get a good grade.

6. Have heart

    High achievers have heart. In my opinion i think that when they say high achievers have heart they mean they are caring people. Have heart means like be nice, happy, fun caring. If you have a heart that means your caring. Things people that have heart do are being helpful, kind, respectful. To have heart can also be like dedication. You can have dedication towards a sport or school. To have a heart you take in consideration of others feelings. Have a heart and care about others, yourself, and the things you love to do. Always have heart and do the right thing.

" Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you
find it."

- Steve Jobs

 You can apply this attitude with your friends at school or at home with family be caring and helpful, have heart.

Reflection

    The six attitudes of high achievers are really inspiring and make you think a lot about yourself and the future. These attitudes are really motivational and makes you reflect a lot on your actions. Make no small plans is really good attitude that really tell you to set high goals and always do better. Another attitude I really liked is do what you fear because it's telling you to face your fears and overcome it. I also liked the one that high achievers are willing to risk failure this means they'll give at all the got do or die. Also that they'll keep on trying after a fail and push themselves. Each one of these attitudes are really good. You can learn a lot from these and it'll help you become a better person.

accountability

Accountability

    I think the attribute accountability means to be responsible towards something and to try to do it at the best of your ability.

“As for the journey of life; at some point you will realize that YOU are the driver and you will drive!”

By: Steve Maraboli

   I think this quote means at some point you will get older and will have more responsibilites or more things to be accounted for. 

   

For example like when you get married and have a family for are accounted for to go to work to be able to pay bills put food on the table and take care of your family but when you're a kid you're not responsible for that your parents are.  

goals

100 goals

1. win CIF
2. Place at State 
3. Graduate high school
4. pass this class with an A
5. get straight A's at least once on my report card
6. pass all my classes with at least a B
7. get married 
8. have a family
9. i want to have 1 boy and maybe a girl
10. go to sixflags
11. go to lego land
12. i want to go to Sweeden 
13. Travel to Greece 
14. Meet PewDiePie
15. go to Italy with my wife when i get married 
16. Go to dave and busters
17. go two days without sleeping and not being home
18. go to las vegas 
19. go on cruise
20. get my dream house 
21. live in Chicago for at least a year 
22. go camping with only my closest friends
23. learn to drive
24. get a job
25. buy a scuf controller
26. go to college
27. get good at bowling 
28. go to new york
29. learn how to play the guitar
30. learn to play the drums
31. write a song
32.  write a poem
33. shoot a gun 
34. buy a gun
35. see a wolf
36. own a wolf 
37. see a red panda 
38. write poem for my mom
39. get my drivers licence 
40. run away from home
41. go on road trip with my friends before school ends 
42. make a million dollars 
43. drive to the mall with friends 
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assertiveness

Assertiveness

    I think assertiveness means to be demanding and confident without being to aggressive.

"Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul and a trait of a true coward. There is nothing intelligent about not standing up for yourself. You may not win every battle. However, everyone will at least know what you stood for—YOU."

By: Shannon L. Alder

Reflection: i think this quote is saying to be more confident and stand up for yourself and your opinions. And if people ever prove you wrong at least you stood up for yourself. For example in an argument or debate.  

personal development quote

Personal Development Quote

"A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder"

-Thomas Carlyle

    I think this quote means that a man without a goal is a man in which doesn't or function right. like for example that story with this huge ship was used in war and was the strongest. of them all. No body was able to take it down no matter what they did  it just seemed  impossible. Then one day somebody shot a missal to the rudder and the ship went out of control. It spun in circles and blew up. It did it because the rudder is what controls the ship. So in other words a man without a goal doesn't function because he doesn't know what hes aiming for. He doesn't know what he wants to accomplish so how can he do anything without knowing what he wants to do or accomplish. just like the ship couldn't work without  the rudder.

This quote relates to my 100+ Life Planning goals because it has to do with knowing your goal and you cant anything without having a goal.

attitude

Attitude

    A settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a persons behavior. I think it means the way you behave or perform.

“Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you.”

-Walt Whitman

I think this quote means that if you have a positive attitude and keep on doing good and keep on moving forward no matter what that all the bad things wont bother you or impact you as much. The bad things won't have that much of an impact because they'll be behind or in the past and forgotten. That's why you should keep moving forward because eventually your problems would be in the past/ behind you like your shadow.

boldness

Boldness

    Boldness means not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger or rebuff; courageous and daring: a bold hero. not hesitating to break the rules of propriety. Thinking outside the box with assertiveness 

“You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.

-Mandy Hale

   I like this quote because it is telling you to be courageous and demanding. Stand up for what you believe is right and do whats right.

caring

Caring

    Caring means displaying kindness and concern for others. Also the work or practice of looking after those unable to care for themselves, especially sick and elderly people.

“The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over." 

-David Foster Wallace

    I think this quote means that if you really care about something or someone you are willing to risk it all.

decisions determine destiny

Decisions Determine Destiny"

-Thomas S. Monson

    In my opinion this is a really good quote that can relate to everybody in this world. What this quote is saying is that your actions have consequences. Your actions can have good consequences or they can have bad consequences. Your destiny relies on the things in which you do. For example if you stay in school and always choose the right great things will come your way. If you stay in school and go to a university or college you can get a career or a great job and make good money to support your family if you ever plan on having one. On the other hand if you were to make bad choices like slack off, ditch or crop out of school you're going to have negative consequences. Such as you're to have trouble getting a job and if you do get a job you'll make little money. Another example that can have negative consequences is if you steal, is in gangs, or break laws you can go to prison or you may end up dying. In other word your actions well always have in impact in your life.

    An attribute within the quote can be Destiny.

    

This quote relates on my 100+ planning goals because my actions are going to make me accomplish or fail at my goals.

911

    911 was a tragic event known throughout all over the nation. An event so tragic that is worth remembering for many centuries to come. About 3 thousand people died including 343 firefighters 60 emergency workers and police men. At was at 8:46am the first hijacked plane hit the north tower. it was 9:03am when the second hijacked plane hit the second tower. Minutes later the second tower collapses and then the north tower does the same.
 

Personal Development Attribute

Determined

    Determined means having made a firm decision and being resolved not to change it.

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.”

-Barack Obama

    If you are to determined that means that  you're really sure about something. Also it can mean that you really want to accomplish something. It can be goal it can be something physical like with your appearances or something mental like you want to do better in school or be a happier person. If you are determined that means you're willing to do what ever it takes to do it. If you're determined you're dedicated. Don't way for a miracle to happen. Act now and be determined into making a change or accomplishing something. Don't wait for things to change make the change. For example lets say you don't like the way you look maybe you have a belly and want to get more in shape or more muscle. You have to be determined to make the change by eating better healthier foods and being dedicated into wanting to get better by exercising.

 

a smile

A Smile

    A smile is form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed. A smile can also be form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed. 

    “Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.” 

-Dr. Seuss

    A persons smile can tell a lot about someone. Usually a smile is a form of happiness. In my opinion i think this quote means don't worry about the bad things that happened to you in PAST be happy that's over. If you worry your whole life about things that have happened in the past your life will be depressing and miserable. If something bad happens to you in the present its ok to be upset but don't think about too much in the future. Don't let things from the past bring you down keep moving forward and be glad you wont to worry about it again.

Way to be 

9 ways to be Happy and Make Something of your life

Gordon B. Hinckley

1. Be Grateful

    To be grateful means feeling or showing an appreciation of kindness; thankful. For example I'm grateful for having an amazing family that always supports me. People can be grateful for many things whether its something big or small. If you're grateful that means like you're thankful or you're showing appreciation. Everybody should have something or someone to be grateful for.

" Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful."

-John Wooden

2. Be Smart

    Being smart can mean many things for example you can be street smart or can you can be smart in school. Some people know lots about certain like a subject like math but maybe they aren't so good with science. I think everybody has knowledge and smart at certain things but with others maybe they aren't. Every body has flaws no one knows everything but some people do know more than others. People that are smart will usually know what the right choices are, and will make that choice. Like going to school everybody, pay attention, do all class work and home work is smart because that can get you good grades and with good grades you can got to a college and have a carrier. Not only that but going to school that help you obtain knowledge on many subjects which help you be a smart person. Sometimes smart people can be lazy and don't do their work or make wrong decisions. Be a smart and choose the right and many good things will come your way. Make smart choices and your future will be good.

"A smart man makes a mistake, learns from it, and never makes that mistake again. But a wise man finds a smart man and learns from him how to avoid the mistake altogether."

-Roy H. Williams

    You can apply smart for example when you're in school and you take test that shows what you know about a certain topic.

3. Be Involved in Good Works

    Be involved in good works means to do be apart in good helpful activities. It can be anything like exercising or helping out other people. Being involved in good works can be like help raise awareness towards something. It can be like with breast cancer awareness like when people were pink. Also doing charity work to help out the community. It can be cleaning up a certain area or help build something that can benefit others like a community garden. Also it can just be to help those in
need. It can be old, young, friends, family, or just people you don't know who can use an extra hand. Also donating money is a good work. If you are involved in good works you are a good person. You don't loose anything from it people well respect you and later there will be someone there to help you. Being involved in good works is always good to keep you choosing the right.

"The best preparation for good work tomorrow is to do good work today."

-Elbert Hubbard

    You can apply this in everyday life always make the good choices and be involved in doing good things.

4. Be Clean

    To be clean can mean many things. People can be clean by being sanitary. It can be keeping proper hygiene like brushing teeth, using deodorant, and showering. It can also be like keeping your environment like the house, school, streets, room. Also like clean personality. Be nice, helpful, friendly to others, be polite have manners and respect use of proper language. Another thing you can do to stay clean is stay away from drugs don't go looking for trouble.

Don't go looking for fights, Don't drink if you're under age, don,t smoke, no wild parties. To be clean is to always choose the right thing. Also be clean with your body like exercise, eat healthy, be a good, clean person and good things will come to you.

"Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world."
    
    I think this quote is saying the of a person you are the brighter your future will become.

5. Be true

    To be true is to be honest. Always be yourself no matter what. If somebody doesn't like you for the real you then you shouldn't anything yourself. Be honest with others be a good friend. Be honest to yourself. It's easier to tell the truth than to have to hide it with lies after lies after lies.

You only have imperfections if you think there is something you don't like. Be happy and grateful for who you really are. You shouldn't let anyone try to you change. Also you shouldn't try to change anybody. Be honest with yourself, friends, family, etc.

"Be true to yourself, help others, make each day your masterpiece, make friendship a fine art, drink deeply from good books - especially the Bible, build a shelter against a rainy day, give thanks for your blessings and pray for guidance every day."

-John Wooden

  I think this quote means  be honest with yourself and others. Be kind other take care of your love ones and yourself. Also to be grateful and thankful for what you have. For another great day of life.

6. Be Positive

    Being positive can mean multiple things. Mainly being positive is being happy. Everybody should be positive you can be positive towards others. See the good side in things. Always keep happy mind. Doing the right thing is a good way of being positive. When you do the right thing you always get a good feeling. Have a positive attitude with others. Be nice and polite. Always stay calm, concentrate, focus. Be positive even when things aren't going so good.
   An example of being positive is like if you're taking a test and didn't study stay positive and do your best

"Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results."

    This quote means if you're not think good then good things will never come. If you don't have a goal then how are you ever going to accomplish anything. How arr you going to get something if you don't what you want.

   I can apply this in everyday life like when I'm having a bad day i just think positive.

7. Be Humble

    Being humble is having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. I think humble means to be nice. There are many ways to be humble. Be kind with others. Do favors for other people be helpful. Keep those around you positive.

Also be polite and respectful to yourself and those around you. Think about others feelings. For example if someone needs money to buy their lunch help them and loan them a few dollars it won't hurt. Money comes and goes in return you'll get a good feeling knowing you did the right thing to help somebody. It can be something small like helping your mom with the groceries. Humble can also mean thankful or grateful.


"Success comes to those who dedicate everything to their passion in life. To be successful, it is also very important to be humble and never let fame or money travel to your head."

   An example is being humble for waking up every morning.

8. Be Still

    To be still could mean many things. I think being still means to be calm. Keep your behavior under control. Like when you are at school or at church stay still by being quite, seated, and listen to what people are saying. Be calm and do good be cooperative. You don't always have to be still sometimes there are times when you have to make some noise. For example in protest people have a strong opinion towards or against something and want people to know why. Another example is when you stand up for those who can't. Do what you know is right. Be still most of the time and when you aren't its because you're doing the right thing.

" I'm most proud of the blessings that God has bestowed upon me, in my life. He's given me the vision to truly see that you can fall down, but you can still get back up. Hopefully I'll learn from my mistakes and have the opportunity to strengthen and improve the next thing I do."


Reflection

    I think the 9 ways to be happy and make something of my life are really good ways to be a good person and do the right thing. This can benefit anybody. These 9 ways are really inspirational. It tells what to do to be happy and make good choices. For example one i really liked was to be clean. I really liked it because to be clean can mean a lot of things like take care of your body like don't use drugs keep your environment clean and yourself clean. There many others more like be positive, be humble etc. These are really good traits and will lead you to success.  

Commitment

    Commitment can mean like the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity. To accomplish a goal with determination. Also an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action. 

"Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort."

-Paul J. Meyer

    In my opinion i think this quote means that if you are committed in achieving a goal you will be able to accomplish it. Things don't happen by miracle you have to work for it each day. You have to be committed meaning you'll want to work hard for it. If you don't work for things you will not have anything to claim. For example if you want get straight A's you have to be willing/committed in doing all class work, all homework, projects, following the rules, paying attention, and studying. You wont just get straight A's magically.

Personal Development Quote 

"The key to freedom is obedience. The more obedient we are, the more freedom we have."

-Boyd K. Packer

    Well obedient means to reason with others. I think this is saying the more you are willing to listen to others the more respect you'll earn. Respect is something that is just handed to you respect has to be something you earned. With respect people will think your responsible and that you'll make the right choices. If people think you're responsible then they'll give you more freedom they'll treat more mature. For example if you are obedient to your parents then they'll respect you more and they'll give you freedom like they'll give you your own space. They'll let you go out with friends, go buy things, even be in a relationship. The more respectful and listen to others people will respect you and treat with maturity. People will eventually let you make your own decisions but first you have to prove to them that your responsible enough. The more you listen to others and obedient you are, the more people will respect you and give you your freedom

   An attribute in this quote is obedience